“You dress like a white girl.” Why is this a thing? How can one even validate such a statement? In a climate that we live in, where everyone is over sensitive and everyone is offended you would think that slurs like that would not come from my own peers. As a black woman, working in the fashion industry has allowed me to express myself through what I wear and my only rule of thumb is that I am comfortable. I have never looked to anyone but myself for inspiration for the way I dress.
I couldn’t even begin to dissect what dressing like a white girl could mean but the closest I got to a definition was my good friend telling me that I just wear what I want and don’t care what people think; a futile attempt. Anyway, I’m fairly thin so I don’t really have limits to what I can wear. I’m almost always classic and presentable so I don’t ever have to dress appropriately so to speak. But then I stop and think about my peers who may not necessarily have this luxury. The girls who aren’t as thin as I and have to be more conscious of what they wear because of how it may fit them. My God what a tragedy. Praises to the curvy women who make it look great because “the struggle is real”, I know. I have to say the fact that I’m so tiny is no excuse for people to expect me to be dressed more and more to their standards but somehow it does. In the words of Kanye opinions are like assholes we all have them.
The sad truth of the matter is that because I am black I am expected to have a certain taste level or style that is actually false and doesn’t exist but only within ones mind. Racism is so deeply rooted that we all have become so conditioned to ideas that hold no weight or statistical evidence. It’s so bologna. This “Black History Month” if there is one thing I hope it is progression for everyone. Not just one race or group of people, but everyone. We are all human beings that go through different experiences. If this is what fashion has succumbed to then I want us to get back to the basics. Fashion being a form of individualism, a form of self expression not a divider of people. It’s the journey of life. The very things we go through are the very things that connect us. The sooner you let go of these false ideologies then you realize they aren’t real and that’s half the battle to manifesting success in your life. Deal with what is going on in your head and then GET OUT OF YOUR OWN HEAD!