The Miseducation of the Hyper-sexualization of the Woman Body

We have to be careful when we are imposing our own beliefs and or insecurities on to others. Just because you have a set way of life and being doesn’t mean that it’s good or will work for someone else. For example, I can choose to say that I don’t support X group. It doesn’t mean that X group is lesser than and it doesn’t even mean that my choice to not support them is the best option for the greater good. To top it off, I haven’t even given X group a fair chance. Instead I just stick to tradition and the way things have always been. This was a very difficult situation I just mapped out for you but that is how easy it can be to get caught up in projecting self related ideas onto others. If we are born naked? Then who came up with clothes?

Naturally I enjoy being naked, but in the comfort of my own home of course. Growing up my dad dressed my sister and I in clothing that could be described as “Tom-boy”. It wasn’t until I began to mature then I realized “Tom-boy” clothes were better than form fitting ones if you didn’t like attention. I was an active child. I took part in dance, cheerleading, track, and even the band for a while. My parents made sure I was partook in activities as a child that would set the foundation for the woman I am today. I didn’t realize it back then.

Being active as a child, I then grew a nice and fit shape. When these changes started to occur in my figure was when I noticed that I wouldn’t be able to wear the same things as someone who was less curvy. My parents were what some would say over protective. There wasn’t too much showing off clothing that my sister and I could wear on any day. As I grew older, I understood the situation better. In a sense my parents were protecting me from people who sexualized nudity. It’s so deeply rooted that this is the norm in Western culture and many other nation. This taboo has even spread across religions. Unclothed women are often thought of as loose and unholy. This is not true. Just because these are the standards society has put in place for us doesn’t mean that we have to continue with them. Nudity is natural. We come into the world this way. I support it, but I do know the wicked ways of the world. I just wish people would point the finger the right direction the next time a woman is wearing scantily clothes and is forced to have sex with someone. She deserved it or she asked for it is not okay as a reason ever.

It’s a happy feeling when one is so comfortable in their own skin and not subjected to the sin and judgement of others. My favorite is when the naked body is used as the canvas for the artist to create art. Could you imagine a world where instead of clothing people wore art? A ritual I would definitely take part in.

The naked body was never something that symbolized lust, disrespect, taking advantage or or anything of that matter. I’m curious where this behavior came about. Then I remembered that In the Bible, before Adam and Eve were cast out of the garden they moved about nakedly. When they were without sin, they were naked, but when they committed sin they were to be clothed. When you aren’t in a place truly value the human body, really take care of it and cherish it God steps in. I can’t pinpoint one thing over another to place the blame completely. Sometimes we are forced to accept things the way they are and ponder about them with friends.

Fashion MM6 Bodysuit



Quarantine Clean Queen

So first off let me start off by saying that #Coronavirus is no joke. I have prayed many times for the world and especially now more than ever. I’m glad and grateful that my friends and loved ones are safe, doing well, and healthy. I hope that for you and your family as well. Positive thoughts and a sound mind will take us a long way in this time.

As the virus of 2020 continues to spread across the world, many of us are finding ourselves confined to our homes and only going outside if absolutely necessary. This social distancing behavior is affecting us all in ways we couldn’t imagine. Personally, I am a homebody but I will say that all of this can be quite overwhelming and sometimes causing major anxiety for me. When this happens, I usually go for a walk to get fresh air, write on my blog, or a number of other productive things that I enjoy and find relaxing.

I wanted to bring to life a concept that popped into my mind during this stay at home period. Let me just say a lot of ideas are coming to me but I also want to be smart about the actions I take and not risk my health. Nonetheless this allows me to occupy an old but very familiar space for art and ideas to grow and flourish. Ironic that my home isn’t the first place I think of when I want to create but rather nature and outside. Now I am rethinking my living space and how it’s decorated. So many ideas are flowing that I would never thought of before. I have no experience whatsoever with interior decorating so I know this process will be a fun and interesting one.

I wanted to create a beautiful and of course colorful story. I created this look using a lot of Nars products. Nars is my go to brand for makeup cosmetics. The plastic bags are a nod to recycling and practicing sustainability. I have them stashed away in my hall closet and use them for the bathroom trash.

During this time when the world is going through so much, I think that’s it’s important to find your peace. Realize that your mind is powerful and should be used for positive thinking and growth. Eat well and be well. Do unto others as you would like done to you. These are times where we have to get back grounded and realize we have much more in common than not. That is more than enough reason to live in unity and together in peace. For now let’s just continue with the Social Distancing for the greater good.


Fashion Area top, Versace pant, Gucci shoes, Alain Mikli sunglasses, Baublebar earrings, Hairpins from Marshalls

Nordstrom in New York City

Seven floors of better to luxury shopping. Bright white lights complement the beautiful rich colors and fabrics. I’ve always loved the edit from Nordstrom. They have really great buyers.

I was a little overwhelmed with so much product spread out all over the huge floors. The visual displays were abstract and cool. I wish there was more thought to create something more relatable for shoppers. Nonetheless they were eye catching. Maybe in such a critical climate, it could be nice to let go and forget about your worries while shopping.

Growing up in DC, I would love riding to the neighboring Pentagon City Mall to shop at Nordstrom with my family. There was a Macy’s there as well but something about Nordstrom I always preferred. Having a Nordstrom in New York feels like having a piece of home. Although now I am big on supporting small brands, I do think I will shop there from time to time.

There’s a really cool bar on the top floor. Who doesn’t like a little spirited shopping! With brick and mortar retail stores struggling, it will be interesting to see the business strategies rolled out to keep up with fast fashion and online retailers. The store is very close to Columbus circle on 57th and Broadway.

Spring, please

With the season changing and everyone and they mama pretty much ready for spring, I created an alternative look that can transition you to next season. I also love that if you’re going out this look is also very sexy without being over the top. You can dress warm and still be cute girlfriend!
Not Two Chains , it’s Two Bags. No but really I’m kinda obsessed with my leather bag from a cool small woman owned business out of VA , TREEFAIRFAX. The bags are handcrafted. I feel like my bag is a unique piece made just for me. It didn’t take long for my order to be made and took just a few weeks before I received my bag. I highly recommend you check her brand out via her website and her Instagram Treefairfax. If you’re in the market for a new bag or you just want to add a really cool and great quality bag to your collection, thank me later.

Of course there’s a lot of color coming through with this look. The red handbag is an Area in collaboration with Bertoni bag, which was handmade in Italy. I love the pop of color and it’s puffed up look. The dress I literally snagged at Aritzia, a small multi brand shop in soho, on sale for like twenty bucks. I often get overwhelmed shopping for myself. Thankfully this day, I had my patience on full. I went upstairs to check out their sale section first because why not?! This dress is from Wilfred Free which is a brand I seem to gravitate to when I’m shopping at Aritzia. I love the color contrast that can take you from day to night. The fabric is very comfortable and flattering. The blue stitching on the fabric is just the unexpected pop of color that I enjoy.

These are my babes. My boots are Helmut Lang caught them on sale on the Barney’s warehouse website. Let’s take a moment of silence for Barney’s. These knee boots are a few years old but they were very delicate to wear from the beginning. I do like the way they broke in because they’re super soft but I found the leather to be a little too soft for a structured boot that you want to get the most wear out of.
I love the tight fit because I can wear them with wide legged trousers also! I styled an ankle bracelet on to add a fun accent to the neutral colored leather. I think this is something that super easy and simple that really can elevate and change the look of your boot. Accessories for your accessories! I love it.


Dress Wilfred Free
Belt Bag Treefairfax
Chain Bag Area
Ankle Bracelet Frasier Sterling

The Corner

As I sit in the corner and reflect over a beautiful New York skyline view, I am grateful for every thing. Spending time with a great friend catching up and enjoying each other’s positive vibes. This experience unconsciously reminding me of the woman I am today and the things that are important to me such as friendship and sisterhood. The views of the skyline encouraging me that the world is mine.

I’m currently rocking a vintage Versace pant suit with Fendi shoes and a jitney bag by Off White for another fun pop of color. First off let me say this was one of a few of my greatest finds at Barney’s. The tailoring of this suit as well as the fit is fantastic to say the least. The jitney bag by Off white was a pickup from who often has amazing sales on accessories and clothes. Hot pink is a beautiful color for summer and even a pop of color when paired with black and other neutrals. I personally took a risk, pairing the hot pink with the warm lime color. It paid off for a comfortable, feminine, not over the top sexy look that is perfect for day and a bold hue at night.

I paired the suit back to pink because I enjoy pops of color and fun bright looks. Color is not a go to for me on a day to day basis but I love color for a good time out with friends. I find wearing brighter and bolder hues to be a great way to boost my mood. I am so fine with a kitten heel. These Fendi ones feature and all over mesh and sculpted heel. They are super lightweight and comfy!

I truly believe the universe brought me to find these vintage Versace pieces. I was having a rough day at work adjusting to the horrible makeover dear beloved Barney’s had gotten. Big red signs everywhere telling of the latest news like a sad love song, “Good buys, then Goodbye”. Slowly the place was becoming more liquidation and less Barney’s. I decided to take a break from the sales floor to explore the other floors for clothing that was coming in from the other locations that closed and also from the warehouse since the online site shut down. (now rerouted to Saks)

Within minutes of my self care time, there they were hanging all alone. A two piece fitted Versace pantsuit in a warm lime color just perfect for my complexion. There was no price tag so I asked my manager about it and I promise you I did not break the bank at all. The price was under $100! #bestdayever #Versacehottie

Xoxoxo ,



I was ecstatic to join the Barneys flagship team. I even posted the news to my Insta. If you didn’t post it to Instagram, did it really happen? (So cliche and update I’m learning that I don’t need to post everything on social media) So as I relished in my new found glory getting the job as women’s private label brand ambassador, poor Barney’s was slowly falling to its fate. I just didn’t want to believe it to be true. As a fashion graduate, I had a special place in my heart for Barney’s. I read an amazing book about the Pressmans who were entrepreneurs just like a lot of us today. They started their business on selling men’s discounted suiting around to building it up to one of the worlds top luxury retailers. Many notable fashion events happened at Barney’s and we all know Barney’s was known for inclusivity, and supporting new fashion talent. If that isn’t an impressive, inspiring , commendable entrepreneur story then I don’t know what is.

I didn’t aspire to work in retail, but I did feel it was a vital part of gaining the skills I needed to be able to eventually start my own business. I was happy to take ownership and do whatever I could strategically, creatively and beyond to drive business and profit. Not to mention we had a fantastic team on the women’s designer fourth floor. I felt like my skills were valued and directly effective in driving a vital part of the Barney’s business as a whole. About 6 months in, my world turned upside down. Barneys was sold to the earliest and highest bidder after all, ABG Group, who actually have a strong portfolio. Those who followed along, know this is not who we the people wanted to win because ultimately, ABG group would close all Barney’s stores and then go to license out the Barney’s name with their first venture a shop in shop inside of Saks Fifth Avenue flagship store. 

Fast forward! The remaining flagship store on Madison Avenue is going through liquidation currently at 90% off. There isn’t much Barney’s inventory left but the liquidators hired by ABG group have brought in a number of brands that they work with to drive sales as much as possible. The situation is pretty bad at this point. 

I am grateful for the experience to have worked at Barney’s with amazing and talented people, some who even opened the flagship store on Madison Avenue some 20 odd years ago, still working today until the end. The last day is set to be the 23rd. It will be bittersweet. Barney’s is an iconic fashion institution and also a representation to the end of an era. 

Everyone is waiting to see if ABG group will have the abilities to revive such a landmark name. We will just have to wait and watch since the liquidation process hasn’t been pretty at all. 

Love Barney’s New York



SMART Goals in 2020

Create smart goals in the New Year. Everyone has their input on how they envision their new and improved self but are they actually equipped with the tools to support and execute. Don’t be discouraged if you set goals and suddenly delayed them until after the New Year. Step one to having success in your life is knowing that success looks different for everyone and that you don’t owe success to anyone but yourself. Now you may be wondering, what I mean when I say smart goals. Well the letters literally represent the meaning, S for specific, M for measurable, A for attainable, R for relevant and T for time bound. This simply means creating the guidelines and strategy for the goal that you want to achieve over a certain time period. It is important to do so because you will need a “rule book” or standard set that you will be able to keep in mind in order to diligently achieve your goals. I also suggest breaking your goals down to a timely basis so that you aren’t trying to achieve a ten-year goal in a one years’ time. Sometimes it may even help to assess your goals on a weekly basis and analyze your results to see if you need to change or create a new goal or etc. Be realistic. It’s perfectly okay if your goals aren’t nearly the same as your peers or those in your age bracket. Everyone’s journey is different and the moment you go to compare yourself to others is when you are distracted from the most important thing, yourself! Make sure that your goals align with what you’re trying to do for yourself. Don’t allow the influence of others goals make you feel like you aren’t achieving success. Some of my personal goals for the New Year are to work out at least two times a week for 30 mins to build my stamina, save at least $100 a week for 6 months, and so on. Your goals should be sacred to you so you don’t have to share them with others if you don’t feel comfortable. No explanation needed. Just create the blueprint and work towards your goals a little every day. You may lose track sometimes but having a strategy makes getting back on track a little easier. When you have a clear vision and recipe for success in your life, outside influences will have a hard time getting through to you.  The major key is to make sure you set yourself up with a strong foundation to begin. Good luck to everyone in the new decade and I wish you all major success! Whatever that looks like for you.