Hope everyone is doing well and staying positive and thankful this holiday season. At your request, I will be posting more fashion blurbs showing my #ootd and how I came up with the look. My style is classic and polished but also changes depending on the situation. I know I’m not the only one who feels this way. Am I?
This was a casual day for me. I actually had a doctors appointment so I wanted to be cozy but still put together like I actually tried. LOL. Let’s be honest if we really dressed like how we felt…. Oof. But the magic about clothes is that usually when you put yourself together nicely, you start to feel nice. Shallow but true.
If you don’t have a sweater dress yet for the colder weather seasons, put it on your list. Heres a similar style to what I’m wearing, but mine is at-least two years old so I doubt they will have it. I would say opt for a less bulkier style so that you can easily layer it with other items in your wardrobe. This way you can create a lot of different looks from one piece, a sweater dress. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve worn this dress and in how many different ways I’ve styled it.
I layered a plush cardigan from AFRM on top to create a layered look. I wanted to keep a soft look so I stuck to sweater fabrics for this full look. It was a nice day out so I didn’t need to wear a coat. I added in my handbag to add a pop of white to warm up and add contrast to this monochromatic look. I love a good boot that can be worn multiple ways. Versatility is everything for me especially because I don’t shop often. I have a very small wardrobe, but many would think I have so many pieces because of the way I mix and match to create totally different looks.
These boots are actually pair 2. I previously had the black leather ones which I wanted again but I couldn’t find them anywhere. I opted for the sand color suede style since it’s a neutral and can just as easily be paired with most outfits. Again, versatility is usually the name of the game.
And that’s pretty much it y’all. I didn’t spend much time with jewelry or makeup. I kept it fresh faced and natural. I have my limits. Hope you enjoyed this outfit inspiration and as always if you rock a similar look, tag me I would love to see your look!
Sweater Dress H&M, Cardigan AFRM, Boots Vince, Bag Wandler
I went out with my boyfriend the other day. The weather was nice but a little chill. I decided to layer up for a chic elevated look. I’m obsessed with this vegan leather asymmetrical jacket which will be available soon on the site shopcsbnyc.com so subscribe to stay updated if you like this look. I stuck with warm tones pulling the look together with a pair of rustic orange leggings. I just love this chocolate color of the leather jacket which pairs perfect with denim to dress down this style if you want to. I kept a more polished look which I usually do, but I would def rock with jeans for a casual but chic style.
If you want to achieve this layered look all you need is a lightweight leather or vegan leather jacket, and a tailored vest. The softer the leather the better and easier it will be for you to layer on top, and more comfortable. I am wearing our asymmetric vegan leather in Espresso. I have to admit I was so impressed with this jacket. It’s not easy finding faux leather that is still luxe and good quality. I definitely hit the jackpot with this piece. Since the jacket was a dark brown color, I broke up the darkness with a warmer layered vest on top. This vest was perfect to pair on top because it has movement but is still structured. It falls beautifully on top of the jacket. I love the hard and soft textures of both pieces layered together. I recommend this look for Fall weather because you can easily take off and put on layers if the weather changes throughout the day.
I came across an older guy on the street. He designed an Ankh cross by using different colored pebbled rocks. It was like nothing I’ve ever seen. He even gave a little history lesson which left me intrigued and eager to do my own research. Check out a few fun facts below about the Ankh.
The Ankh also known as the key of life is a Egyptian hieroglyphic symbol that means “life”. It is known as the Ancient Egyptian cross. It is said to protect against harmful and negative energy and spirits. Some say the Ankh resembles the connection of woman and man the top portion representing a woman’s uterus and the lower portion representing male genitals. There has been a lot of debate over time about the original cross and which one came first.
The buildings and architecture downtown are so amazing. I had to take photos!
I had some Think Coffee to warm up a bit as it got cooler a few hours later. I actually haven’t had coffee in a while so I eased back into it with a Dirty Chai latte with almond milk. It was yummy and the perfect pick me up.
It was a nice day well spent. Sometimes the chill days are the best.
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When my college girlfriend visited New York, I knew we were going to have the best time. It was Labor Day Weekend which meant an extra day on Monday to rest. I know seriously, I can’t hang. LOL. That weekend it would be four ladies, myself included, enjoying good vibes and food. We made reservations for Pera Soho, a mediterannean restaurant in downtown NYC. I suggested the place because of the lovely outside seating they had in their back terrace. I hadn’t been to the restaurant recently, but I still remembered the ambience and the flavorful meal. The evening was lovely and the food was delicious. My only complaint would be that we weren’t seated in the terrace area with the ambience I loved. The restaurant was running a little different because of the pandemic, but we were disappointed nonetheless because there were people seated in that area. We chose not to pursue our desires and settled with the outside seating on the street. It was still nice and the food was good too.
Now, let’s get into my look! I decided to give full on DIVA vibes because I don’t go out often, so when I do I just show up and show out. Deep down beneath the black and muted hues, I LOVE color. When working on personal styling projects, you can bet there will be tons of color like a rainbow explosion. I’m not kidding. I always felt like color exudes a mood and a vibe that is undeniable. If someone walks down the street, in a bright yellow outfit, you will not forget that outfit. So with that being said, my LDW look started with my fun and vibrant green iridescent Area pants.
I knew I loved these pants when I saw them. I’m familiar with the stretch lame’ fabric that the brand is known for and so I knew these pants would fit amazing when I first laid eyes on them at Nordstrom on 57th street. I couldn’t fade the price, but about a month later I saw they were on sale on the Nordstrom website and obviously that was the only sign I needed. A tailored fit with a stretch fabric to hold the booty, what more could a girl ask for?!
From there, I wanted to keep things simple because the pant was already such a statement. I layered a slinky stretchy bodysuit from Boohoo in nude underneath to keep a clean chic look on top. Then I remembered, I’m always cold. I have a lot of different jackets for various ranges of the cold. If you’re from NY you know what I’m talking about. The weather changes here more than I can make up my mind. Nonetheless, the weather often dictates to my outfits.
I had lots of jacket options, but somehow a warm burnt red cotton jacket by Sea popped out my clothing rack to me. It wasn’t necessarily the best option for keeping the look simple, but let’s be real I am not a simple woman in any way or fashion. I love the shape of this jacket as well as the puffed sleeve detail. I think its the perfect piece to throw on and take a simple outfit up a few notches. It’s super easy to wear for everyday and also easy to care for since its cotton.
Pairing my Area bag with the look was a no brainer to complete this whimsical and festive look. I finished the look with a gold strappy sandal from Topshop. I was comfortable, chic, fun, and vibrant for the weekend ! I hope you guys inspired from my look and venture into color for yourself.
Fashion is something we all know and love. As brands grow to be more sustainable, consumers have more options to shop guilt-free. As we head into the Fall season and start to change our wardrobe, here are a few ways you can contribute to the sustainability of fashion.
These are just a few that we came up with. Do you have any that you’d like to share. Drop some tips in the comments. Thanks for reading.
Ever notice people in nature give reasons for being there like how they needed a break or wanted to get away and clear their mind. I thought this must be a common coping mechanism for many people including myself when I’m feeling triggered or overwhelmed, but apparently we are few. The average American spends 24 hours a year outside! If you don’t do anything else today, get outside. Enjoy nature. Nature is amazing and I believe that nature is God’s gift to us all. Nature brings peace. I recently loss a loved one. I have really been trying to take it easy but also keep busy so that I don’t fall into an episode of depression. Balance is always something to strive for in life. Going on walks and spending time doing little things outside with my loved ones bring me a lot of peace.
Remember I told you guys about healthy ways I cope with my anxiety and one of them is practicing mindfulness. Mindfulness is disconnecting from technology and really getting in tuned with your surroundings. What do you see? What colors are around you? What is that bird doing on that rooftop? Take time to really observe and take it all in. You’d be amazed at how at ease you feel and grounded after doing little mindful exercises like that. Every day is different, but to take time and really indulge in your surroundings for at least 30 minutes a day is very powerful. I think a lot of us have traded mindfulness for scrolling mindlessly on social media and utilizing the digital world as an escape. This is unhealthy and doesn’t contribute at all to your higher self.
Being in nature actually has been proven to have health benefits. Having trees and greenery in you neighborhood or even bringing some plants into your home can make a world of difference for your health. Neighborhoods with more greenery and trees have lower crime rates and the locals are less likely to be stressed. Did you know plants lower anxiety and stress by reducing your blood pressure, heart rate, muscle tension, and the production of stress hormones? It’s amazing all that God has given to us and yet we take it very much for granted. Promise me you’ll go outside for at least 30 minutes today or go for a walk in your neighborhood. Put your phone in your purse and really embrace all that nature has to offer you.
Nature heals and if we really think about it we are a part of nature as well. Our genetic makeup wasn’t exposed to all this technology and advancements today. We are made up of 70% percent of water so that should already tell you a lot about who we are as human beings and what we need to survive. I feel for people who don’t like water, those who won’t even sit with with feet half way in. Nature can heal us, if we embrace it and allow it. I love nature because it doesn’t ask for permission to be is just does. It’s beautiful on its own and doesn’t mind going unnoticed, it will still go through it’s life cycle. There’s something to be said about nature in all its beauty. So much abundance and I know that if God created it, it was surely for a reason. While I’m here on Earth I will always find solace and peace in nature. If you haven’t tried practicing mindfulness yet, make it a thing to do this weekend. Then let me know how you felt about it.
Have you ever thought what are labels? And what purpose do they really serve? Are they really transparent and honest when they’re labeling our goods in a retail store or is it just there to appease our minds? Do you even know who you’re buying from when you’re mindlessly shopping? I know I didn’t before, but now I am more aware of situations where I can be a mindful consumer. After all, I am working for hard earned money. Relying solely on labels can be dangerous and unhealthy. Get out there, do your research. Find out the facts and what will help you consume more mindfully. This is also how finding yourself in life goes and not allowing labels to hinder you.
When you start labeling, you create an environment for unhealthy thoughts. It creates the idea in your mind that isn’t realistic. You notice you start to train your mind to think that if something doesn’t fit within the description of what has been labeled then there’s an issue. I agree to some extent with foods and goods we buy, but I think labeling people can be toxic and hindering for self and others. For example, we label doctors as health experts and think they know everything, but we truly know our own body better than anyone else. It’s great to have a doctor to go to for procedures and prescriptions, but for the most part the foods you eat and the things you consume correlate directly to your health. We can’t label people and put unrealistic expectations on them especially if we aren’t proactive in doing the work for ourself.
Labels can keep you stuck to one place and way of living meanwhile the world is changing every day. You know the saying move with me or get left behind. It’s true. I’m not saying to abandon your morals and character, but explore life and what makes you happen and what doesn’t. Be open to new opportunities and remember as long as you’re alive you have a choice to grow and be better. Your higher self deserves every bit of the efforts you put into being better each day you rise.
Check out a few examples of labels below and discuss amongst family and friends the potential harms and real life affects of these labels. Have they helped you to grow as a person? Have these labels caused you to have a one track mind? Really make an assessment of the labels below but also think about some labels that relate to you personally. Assess them and make the proper adjustments in your life to free yourself.
Creative vs Non Creative, Smart vs Dumb, Black vs White, Beautiful vs Ugly , Happy vs Sad, Pretty vs Ugly, the list goes on
It takes time to undo the labels that society has placed on you and boxed you in to be. As a very spiritual being, I know that I can be anything because I am a part of something so much bigger than I could even imagine. Labels are often used to put fear in someone, create a narrative, and control people. I am sending light and love to all those on their journey to be free. ❤️
Hey Honey Bunnies! You’re just in time. Grab a snack and settle in. We’re chatting with the creative and founder of custom clothing brand, Lilith & Mary. Kennie not only a creative, she is an author, designer, as well as dancer. C$BNYC is thrilled to finally have time during this quarantine. We are praying for the world, and letting God take care of the rest. Now let’s jump into this convo with the lovely Kennie!
C$BNYC – You’re an amazing creative. You write, you design and even create custom pieces. How did you get started?
A’Kenya – Thank you love. I started off as a writer. I’ve been writing since I could remember honestly. I’ve always loved creating a new life for myself especially since I grew up a really lonely and depressed child. Always been a black sheep so it was my way of being wonderful without outside opinions. I would write for the girls in my class, a child’s version of erotica since I was always draw to the erotic and sensual (weird, I know but I’m a Pisces lol). Then I got to HS and lost a writing contest so I stopped for about 4 years until a tragic breakup kicked me in the ass. I started it as a blog but I was tired of looking for a job after graduation so I needed something more productive to do. One novella, two poetry books, and 4 anthology shorts later, I felt I needed to incorporate more visuals as well as explain why my image and energy is so sexual. I want women to tap into themselves completely and authentically. Too often we live in everyone else’s truth and we die unfulfilled. We shove ourselves in boxes so we aren’t judged or lonely only to settle for relationships and circumstances that don’t make our hearts sing.
C – A lot of people who don’t know you would describe your work as risqué. Art is subjective so I’m sure when you create you have your vision in mind. What would you describe your work as and how do you think that society can benefit from it?
A – My work is definitely risqué, but it’s deeper than that. People are socialized to look at expressing your sexuality outside of the bedroom as taboo and inappropriate, but what they don’t realize is that line of thinking can limit them in all areas of life. Simply being unapologetic about who you are and how you feel can allow you to tap into your personal power, creativity, and devotion and love for self. I would describe my work and my brand as a self-helping, inspirational, beautiful, artistic lifestyle. Even when people are more reserved, they find the message helpful because it gives them the confidence to listen to what they want.
C – There’s a lot of controversy with sex toys and masturbation. I know this is something you strongly support. Why do you think these things are beneficial rather than problematic?
A – From just a basic standpoint, sex toys and masturbation are extremely essential because they allow you to discover your body and exactly how to turn yourself off, they allow you to express love to yourself, which seems silly, but psychologically speaking, it tells your brain that you love and honor you first. You give love and affection to yourself. It isn’t a need that you have to go seek out in others who haven’t proved that they love and honor you. From a spiritual standpoint masturbation helps activate your sacral chakra. Your loins hold energy that not only creates physical life, but allows you to manifest the life you envision on the outside. We always say sex is sacred and special in terms of sharing our bodies with others, but never think about what that power can actually do. When you focus on the life you wish to give birth to while aroused you’re more likely to conceive.
C – What are some things keeping you sane during this pandemic?
A – I have to be honest cuz I don’t like to be fake positive or whatever, staying sane is hard like omg so hard. Especially when you struggle with mental illness and a family who you can’t connect with. I do enjoy binging my holy trinity (Netflix, Hulu, & Prime Video), I’ve been dancing nude, sitting outside in the grass, and being a mama to my new kitty.
C – I know you’ve been designing more. Is that where you’re creative energy is flourishing the most right now?
A – Yes! I’m not much of a seamstress or an artist but I get these visions of things I would like to wear or some extra dramatic costume like piece I wanna wear to the grocery store but can’t because it would cost a million dollars and I’m not there yet lol. I’ve been researching old burlesque costumes and following for exotic dance wear companies and it has me soooooo inspired. I live for a good camp moment. I wish I could live it everyday so why not fill my closet with it lol.
All photography is the work of Kennie through her different mediums of creativity. Follow Kennie on Instagram @Lilithnmary
Today was the perfect kind of Monday. I woke up and stuck to the status quo which usually includes saying my morning prayer, working out at home, and enjoying my homemade ginger tea. I swear it never gets old and its the perfect recipe for a great day. I was having lunch with a friend at a cute little cafe in Brooklyn, The Buren. The weather was lovely and so we enjoyed the small outdoor seating area. It was a cute and cozy location for my friend and I to catch up and share ideas. The perfect photo-op opportunity as well! LOL
Keep in mind The Buren is a cafe’. I would honestly go back for the coffee options. The location is the perfect chill spot to clear your mind or bring your work and get some things done. If I had to rate the food I would give it a 5 out of 10.
I ordered a chai latte with coconut milk. Okay, first of all I live for a creamy chai or matcha latte with right amount of sweetness and froth. This drink was all of that. I definitely could’ve just ordered a large size and been content, for what it’s worth. SN: Have you ever had a dirty chai latte? OMG. So good. I honestly couldn’t tell you the last time I had coffee. I think it was Jacqueline and Lizzy’s birthday dinner we were celebrating at Bar Pitti. Yes, it was ice cream with coffee poured over. Divine! Totally worth stimulating my nervous system. (So… bad do not follow me!)
Ok so I know why you’re here reading this blog. Either one because you love me and two you love me and want to know who I’m screwing, hence the title, “Friends with Benefits”. I’m so glad you came. No pun intended. Ashley is definitely one of my friends with benefits and not the only one. LOL. I am so grateful for sis because she benefits me not in the way some people may be thinking, but she is a great friend with many benefits. She’s honest, always tries to be her full self, and wants to grow and be better. I am truly inspired by my friends and thankful for the value I receive by being connected to them.
I think to truly have a relationship with someone means taking time to communicate, building and pouring into one another. A lot of times we forget to make the real connections with the people we have closest to us and can’t fathom where we missed the steps. Part of me feels Drake when he said “No new friends”, but then part of me doesn’t want to put up walls and block people out just because. “Balance.” ! Basically, long story short; The family, friends, and people you currently have in your life are the relationships you have that you can either choose to build or choose to do nothing and be stagnant. But what doesn’t grow will surely die.
Feeling inspired by Chanel’s #ootd. Click the links below to shop the look.
Jacqueline and Elizabeth are two of my lovely friends that I met while working at Barney’s on Madison Avenue. They both are stylish women and a blast to hang out with. I made reservations at 6pm at Bar Pitti in the city. The choice was fabulous and my first time going there. The pasta options were delicious. We ordered dessert to finish off our meal and it was even more delish. I would highly recommend this restaurant for dinner if you’re in New York City area.
After dinner, we decided to take advantage of the beautiful night and walk through Soho. We knew it would be quiet and empty since everyone was staying home because of the pandemic. We were practicing safety precautions and wearing our masks as well. I didn’t expect to see all the stores covered with wood as a safeguard to protect their assets. It was strange to see but I’m glad we did.
The message is clear as day. The violence and oppression against people of color will not be tolerated.
I opted for a fun get look for the night. A little Hollywood and a little western inspired. Click the links below to Shop my look. Thanks for the support. I really appreciate it! -Chanel
I had a beautiful start to the weekend with my good friend who’s name is also Ashley and boyfriend Chuck. We started the day at L Train Vintage, a cool spot in Brooklyn that has amazing vintage clothing. It was nice to be out and about since the pandemic and actually be able to shop in a store again. The fitting rooms weren’t open yet due to the virus though. I told myself I wasn’t shopping and just there for moral support for Ashley who was buying denim shorts. My boyfriend got some cool pieces as well. Long behold, there was a beautiful sequin beaded top that I could not resist. Luckily I have the best boyfriend, and he bought it for me. So technically I didn’t shop. Lol.
Next, we got hungry from all the shopping so we grabbed a bite at Sisters, a Brooklyn bar and eatery, just some blocks away. The ambience was beautiful. It had a open rooftop for the most amazing sun light to come through. It was such an LA vibe as soon I stepped into the space and between me and you I’ve never been to LA. My friend did though and she agreed so much. It’s funny how we can tell how a place is or imagine it without ever having been there. Anyway, the food was yummy. I’m trying *keyword trying* not to eat meat so I had the Veggie Burger with fries and Brussels sprouts. I also had a frozen margarita that was def not shy on the alcohol. I enjoyed the outside seating because the day was beautiful. Most restaurants in New York are open for outside dining and/or takeaway.
After, we headed back to my friend’s place which has the most amazing rooftop. We hung out on the rooftop for a bit and caught some vibes. It was the perfect way to end the day but it didn’t end there for me. My night ended unexpectedly at a barbecue where I gave into a beef shush kabob. It was so yummy but my stomach was not happy the next morning. All in all I had an amazing start to my weekend.
Being that the weather has been so hot, I decided to keep it light and airy with my outfit. The warm tones I chose complimented my skin tone so well. My satin skirt from Vince worked perfect for exploring around Brooklyn because of its elastic waistband. Not only is the color divine, but the comfort of the skirt is unmatched. Keeping the brown tones consistent with my look, I paired my skirt with a nude Zara racerback tank, which actually is a set to be worn with matching biker shorts. I love breaking looks apart as well as mixing and matching to maximize my wardrobe. Lastly my shoes, were the perfect touch to complete my feminine but still comfy roaming around in the Brooklyn heat. I love a good cheetah print and they were the perfect print to add a pop to the otherwise minimal look. They were also super comfy. I got them for a decent price during a big sale Nordstrom was having. They’re BP label which is a Nordstrom brand. Would you wear this summer look?
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