The Miseducation of the Hyper-sexualization of the Woman Body

We have to be careful when we are imposing our own beliefs and or insecurities on to others. Just because you have a set way of life and being doesn’t mean that it’s good or will work for someone else. For example, I can choose to say that I don’t support X group. It doesn’t mean that X group is lesser than and it doesn’t even mean that my choice to not support them is the best option for the greater good. To top it off, I haven’t even given X group a fair chance. Instead I just stick to tradition and the way things have always been. This was a very difficult situation I just mapped out for you but that is how easy it can be to get caught up in projecting self related ideas onto others. If we are born naked? Then who came up with clothes?

Naturally I enjoy being naked, but in the comfort of my own home of course. Growing up my dad dressed my sister and I in clothing that could be described as “Tom-boy”. It wasn’t until I began to mature then I realized “Tom-boy” clothes were better than form fitting ones if you didn’t like attention. I was an active child. I took part in dance, cheerleading, track, and even the band for a while. My parents made sure I was partook in activities as a child that would set the foundation for the woman I am today. I didn’t realize it back then.

Being active as a child, I then grew a nice and fit shape. When these changes started to occur in my figure was when I noticed that I wouldn’t be able to wear the same things as someone who was less curvy. My parents were what some would say over protective. There wasn’t too much showing off clothing that my sister and I could wear on any day. As I grew older, I understood the situation better. In a sense my parents were protecting me from people who sexualized nudity. It’s so deeply rooted that this is the norm in Western culture and many other nation. This taboo has even spread across religions. Unclothed women are often thought of as loose and unholy. This is not true. Just because these are the standards society has put in place for us doesn’t mean that we have to continue with them. Nudity is natural. We come into the world this way. I support it, but I do know the wicked ways of the world. I just wish people would point the finger the right direction the next time a woman is wearing scantily clothes and is forced to have sex with someone. She deserved it or she asked for it is not okay as a reason ever.

It’s a happy feeling when one is so comfortable in their own skin and not subjected to the sin and judgement of others. My favorite is when the naked body is used as the canvas for the artist to create art. Could you imagine a world where instead of clothing people wore art? A ritual I would definitely take part in.

The naked body was never something that symbolized lust, disrespect, taking advantage or or anything of that matter. I’m curious where this behavior came about. Then I remembered that In the Bible, before Adam and Eve were cast out of the garden they moved about nakedly. When they were without sin, they were naked, but when they committed sin they were to be clothed. When you aren’t in a place truly value the human body, really take care of it and cherish it God steps in. I can’t pinpoint one thing over another to place the blame completely. Sometimes we are forced to accept things the way they are and ponder about them with friends.

Fashion MM6 Bodysuit



Quarantine Clean Queen

So first off let me start off by saying that #Coronavirus is no joke. I have prayed many times for the world and especially now more than ever. I’m glad and grateful that my friends and loved ones are safe, doing well, and healthy. I hope that for you and your family as well. Positive thoughts and a sound mind will take us a long way in this time.

As the virus of 2020 continues to spread across the world, many of us are finding ourselves confined to our homes and only going outside if absolutely necessary. This social distancing behavior is affecting us all in ways we couldn’t imagine. Personally, I am a homebody but I will say that all of this can be quite overwhelming and sometimes causing major anxiety for me. When this happens, I usually go for a walk to get fresh air, write on my blog, or a number of other productive things that I enjoy and find relaxing.

I wanted to bring to life a concept that popped into my mind during this stay at home period. Let me just say a lot of ideas are coming to me but I also want to be smart about the actions I take and not risk my health. Nonetheless this allows me to occupy an old but very familiar space for art and ideas to grow and flourish. Ironic that my home isn’t the first place I think of when I want to create but rather nature and outside. Now I am rethinking my living space and how it’s decorated. So many ideas are flowing that I would never thought of before. I have no experience whatsoever with interior decorating so I know this process will be a fun and interesting one.

I wanted to create a beautiful and of course colorful story. I created this look using a lot of Nars products. Nars is my go to brand for makeup cosmetics. The plastic bags are a nod to recycling and practicing sustainability. I have them stashed away in my hall closet and use them for the bathroom trash.

During this time when the world is going through so much, I think that’s it’s important to find your peace. Realize that your mind is powerful and should be used for positive thinking and growth. Eat well and be well. Do unto others as you would like done to you. These are times where we have to get back grounded and realize we have much more in common than not. That is more than enough reason to live in unity and together in peace. For now let’s just continue with the Social Distancing for the greater good.


Fashion Area top, Versace pant, Gucci shoes, Alain Mikli sunglasses, Baublebar earrings, Hairpins from Marshalls

Nordstrom in New York City

Seven floors of better to luxury shopping. Bright white lights complement the beautiful rich colors and fabrics. I’ve always loved the edit from Nordstrom. They have really great buyers.

I was a little overwhelmed with so much product spread out all over the huge floors. The visual displays were abstract and cool. I wish there was more thought to create something more relatable for shoppers. Nonetheless they were eye catching. Maybe in such a critical climate, it could be nice to let go and forget about your worries while shopping.

Growing up in DC, I would love riding to the neighboring Pentagon City Mall to shop at Nordstrom with my family. There was a Macy’s there as well but something about Nordstrom I always preferred. Having a Nordstrom in New York feels like having a piece of home. Although now I am big on supporting small brands, I do think I will shop there from time to time.

There’s a really cool bar on the top floor. Who doesn’t like a little spirited shopping! With brick and mortar retail stores struggling, it will be interesting to see the business strategies rolled out to keep up with fast fashion and online retailers. The store is very close to Columbus circle on 57th and Broadway.

Sharing is Caring

“Sharing is caring.” I’ve literally came across two people within the last week who share similar feelings about not wanting to post to @Instagram and they’re freaking boss babes! Putting yourself out there( the world can be harsh) , sharing your private business (I’m very private and an introvert) , and even giving in to social media are all anxiety triggers for me personally. The older that I get and experience more, I am able to better cope and deal with my anxiety.
Being more open about talking to a therapist, being appreciative for loved ones support, writing out my goals weekly, prayer everyday are just a few tactics that have helped.
Be grateful for the journey. Realize how far you’ve come and be proud and also note that someone is inspired and watching you whether you choose to believe it or not. And not for nothing love yourself, trust yourself, believe in yourself. Don’t allow the opinions of others to sway or validate how you feel about self. Focus on your growth and success. Be so occupied with it that you don’t have time to indulge what people say!
Can’t wait to see what you guys share on your feed this #2020 !!! And if you need a stylist shoot me an email and let’s work! #lifestyledbycsbnyc

Money vs Value

Flashback to your favorite 90s rap artists on television flashing their ice and cash flow. They were so cool. Some would make a fan out of their stash while others would “Make it Rain” to show us money wasn’t a thing. It wasn’t until recently that I realized that money was the decoy and money only has value because we give it just that. But money isn’t the end all, having equity and assets is truly where its at. The silly diamonds and fancy cars shining kept us blinded. I call them perishables because from the moment you buy a car or a nice piece of jewelry, the value decreases. Money as most of us know is a printed piece of paper. We then as humans give it value based on what society tries to influence us has the most value. This is why marketing and audience reach is more important than ever. As vain as it may sound, Instagram influencers’ are a great example. Before you judge, let me explain. Social media gives us a chance to have content and ideas shared around the world in an instant and have access to a huge audience. Instagram users who have actually taken time to understand the algorithm of the app are able to grow their following and increase their audience. The bigger the audience the more influence the person has. The more buzz created is exactly what businesses are looking for. Businesses capitalize on this so much that they even have business tools that help them to measure this “buzz”. So the value that is created is quantified and businesses partner with “influencers” for paid advertisements and marketing. Influencers are super valuable to brands that want to maximize profit, but they’re also the tastemakers that provide a relatable aspect that a lot of brands without a creative person cannot provide on their own.

Money can never be the end all. When it gets to that point, the purpose of the business gets cloudy and the audience becomes disinterested. Many fashion retailer brands are shutting down business and leaving shopping in New York City a thing of the past. Once fashion became about profit margins and less about the art, I knew there would be a shift. I just didn’t ever think some of the most iconic retailers and brands would fall victim. Where did they go wrong? What could have been done differently? Everyone wants to go straight to the numbers but let’s be honest fashion is changing. There are so many amazing new brands that believe in the art of fashion that they’re willing to sacrifice to keep the integrity of their small brand making a big impact. Sometimes big brands get comfy and forget they too have to keep their market stimulated and not just with product and a household name.

Aside from e-commerce crushing brick and mortar, what other reason is there that retailers are suffering today?

Sunday Funday

It was a great day taking care of business like a boss babe but also stopping and taking time to smell the roses. I mean really, I went shopping and found the best dress on sale at Maje for my friends upcoming GirlChat event. If you haven’t joined the movement on IG already, now’s your chance. Follow @Girlchatmovement on Instagram for daily motivation, empowering stories, networking events and more.

I started out perusing the sale rack because I Stan a sale on this NYC living budget of mine. There was a lot on the sale rack as it was the end of the season. I made my way through the store so peacefully, just myself and the salesperson. I love shopping in an empty store. Maje had a great variety of pieces to choose from for any occasion not to mention the fabrics and color story were out of this world. This nude striped cotton dress caught my eye because of the color immediately. I loved that it matched my skin tone. I with my stylish eye chose to wear the dress with the sleeves hanging for decoration instead of actually wearing it. It gave the dress a whole new feel super edgy and chic, but it wasn’t my choice for the event. Stay tuned for the winner! I’ll be posting to my Instagram @lifestyledbycsbnyc so be sure to post your thoughts once you see it.

From there how could I not visit the nearby Magnolia Bakery whose banana pudding is literally out of this world.  Fashion and food, count me in!

Then I stumbled upon Cover Girl’s first store ever right in the heart of Times Square. I know, I know how could anyone ever go there if not necessary. It was actually quiet and seemed like today was just my lucky day. The store was something to experience for sure. Go Cover Girl for making people want to come to shop instead of going online. The team was super friendly but also did not hover around me as I made my way through the store. Again good job, Cover Girl for creating a welcoming experience. Dana the manager encouraged me to take photos and interact with the engagement parts of the shop. Check out some pics I took of the space.

This was a day well spent in New York City. Thank you NY for reminding me why I stayed  here after so many years.


“Made in Africa”

African designers are on the rise and I am here for every bit of it. Absolutely obsessed with @LisaFolawiyostudio and her bold prints and unique tailoring. Recently Beyonce has joined the movement and been rocking @Tongorostudio thanks to her bomb stylist Zerina Akers. @Orangeculture representing for the fashionable men and women. These are just a couple African based designers that I love and inspire me. Africa is the Motherland and has so many valuable resources. My hope for Africa is that corruption comes to an end and the people of the continent are no longer robbed of what rightfully belongs to them. I hope that they are able to flourish and enjoy the fruits of their labour.

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Beyonce wearing Tongoro

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Designer Lisa Folawiyo in her natural radiating happiness state

Growing up in America, the only representation of Africa and Africans given to us was poor, uncivilized, and other untrue negative images. As I grow in consciousness, I can only become aware that this was propaganda to keep America and other governments innocent while they secretly rob this continent rich on so many resources. But fast forward to today, the progress and awareness is growing more and more. Afrobeats are popular now here in America and even artists from Africa are partnering with mainstream American music artists to make groundbreaking music for us all to enjoy. Celebrities endorsing these Made in Africa brands helps to bring back credibility to the Motherland that has been lied about, stolen from, and manipulated for so many years. Many African groups have migrated to America and set up their own businesses right here for us to enjoy a bit of a culture so rich. We do not deserve but thank you to the aunties and my boyfriend for indulging my taste buds in such a delicious food selection. I Stan. Africa til infinity.